Tip of the Nose and Trust

 Most of us begin life with a turned up nose tip. Take a look at the babies and young children who you come in contact with. They are trusting of the world and the people in it and exhibit enthusiastic responses to life. Often, though, this trait changes during the teen years if the child was not allowed to question sources or authorities.

 

Turned Up Nose tip

"By nature, I am a trusting person with the people I love. When friends, family, even strangers excite my interest in something new, I tend to swallow it hook, line and sinker. My trusting nature has gotten me in a lot of trouble. I've been burned time and again,, but I'd rather have faith than surrender to self-double."

Enjoy your enthusiasm and consider taking time to do your research and check things out. A great vocation for you might be teaching, wedding planning, mentoring.

Turned Down Nose Tip

"I'm just as trusting as anyone else after I have had time to research the issue and have all the necessary facts. People call me skeptical but they miss the point. I'm careful. I don't want to get burned again. Doubt is my saving grace."

 Consider - you are an excellent person for the business world. You look for the bottom line and value time, energy and money. Be careful not to rain on other people's good ideas.

 

 

Iris size and Emotional Expression

 Most of us start life with large irises, the colored part of the eye. We absorbed and experienced life with awe and wonder and expressed emotions freely.

When prolonged stress occurs, the musculature of the eye contracts, eventually reducing the size of the iris. The result is a small beady eye where more of the sclera, or white of the eye, is present. 

Large Iris Size - 2/3 Iris

"I love expressing emotions! I seem to laugh more, cry more, get angrier and happier, sadder and more joyful than other people. I need tissues with me at all times. I AM what I feel."

Not everyone is able to express like you. Stay true to yourself while respecting that not everyone is comfortable with self-expression.

Small Iris Size - 2/3 Sclera 

 "I've learned that big emotions create big waves, so it is safe to stay under control. I feel emotion but don't feel comfortable expressing it. I am also uncomfortable with other people's expression of anger, fear, sadness and even joy and enthusiasm."

Practice expressing what you feel in words and/or actions. The result will be more positive communication.

 

Cheekbones - A Sense of Adventure

 There are many ways to experience adventure. For some it is the physical pleasure of traveling, taking a new route home, moving furniture around or meeting new people. For others, adventure is the joy of a good book, new information and ideas and a chance to be alone with one's own thoughts.

To identify the cheekbone facial structure, draw an imaginary, vertical line along the outside of the eyes. Observe whether the cheekbones are on the outside or inside of the line. Cheekbones inside of the line represent MENTAL ADVENTURE and cheekbones on the outside of the line correspond to PHYSICAL ADVENTURE.

PROMINENT CHEEKBONES: "I am the physical adventurer."

"I love to travel, go to new places, meet new people, have new challenges. Sometimes, if I am feeling bored, I'll just rearrange furniture or try a new restaurant and I feel in tune again." 

 

BARELY OBSERVABLE CHEEKBONES: "I am the mental adventurer." 

"My sense of adventure takes place in my mind. I seek new ideas, new thoughts, new interests, new aspects of old ideas. I like to reflect and have mental experiences. I don't understand change-for-the-sake-of-change and I will resist it. Once my house or office is arranged to my liking, I keep it that way." 

5 Reasons To look In The Mirror

A mirror can be your best friend.What?

Get out a mirror right now and follow along with me as I take you on a tour of your wonderful, unique face. You are looking at your gifts, your talents, your personality, your communication style, your stress management skills, your resume, your true nature. Your story is written on your face and it is your story to tell.

1. 
   Look at the size of your irises - the colored part of the eye. The larger the irises, the greater your emotional response to life. You laugh more, cry more, experience life more. Many people may have attempted to tone you done. Don't let them. This is who you are. The smaller the iris, the more emotionally restricted you have been. Give yourself permission to experience and FEEL life more fully. It will be a wonderful gift that you give yourself.


2. 
   Look at the space between your eyes. Are your eyes close-set with little space between them or are they wide-set with significant space between them? If you have close-set eyes, you are excellent at details and getting
   things done. Your friend, wide-set eyes, can benefit from your ability to focus on what needs to get done. They, on the other hand, are able to see the big picture and help you create a plan for the future. Together, you make the best business partners.


3. 
   The tip of the nose indicates your degree of trust. Look at your profile. Does the tip of your nose turn up like a ski jump or does it turn down? If the tip of your nose turns up, you are very trusting and enthusiastic in the moment. You are often the cheerleader who encourages others with your
   eager nature. If your nose tip turns down, you have learned healthy skepticism and will accept people and ideas after much thought. You have learned to do your homework and will not rush into something with blind faith.


4. 
   What does the mirror show you about your lip structures? Are your lips full or thin? This is often a trait that changes over time. Most of us begin life with full upper and lower lips and revel in experiencing life fully and talking, laughing and expressing ourselves without a care for what others think. If your lips have thinned, it is often because of being told to "zip it" and you have learned to just stick to the facts. Why not become more child-like and allow for more self-expression, whether it be with the spoken word or through art, music, photography, dance, writing, etc.
   


5. Now let's look at your cheekbones. Draw an imaginary line along the outside of your eyes. Are your cheekbones outside of the line or inside of the line? Cheekbones have to do with adventure. If you have prominent
   
   
   cheekbones, you love physical adventure. Even moving furniture around can get you excited. Taking a new road home from work, trying a new exercise routine, anything new is an adventure. If your cheekbones are sunken and inside the imaginary line, you love mental adventures. Reading, studying manuals, gathering new information, searching the web, etc. is an adventure for you. It doesn't mean that you don't enjoy physical experiences, but if you want to regroup when you are stressed, grab a book and settle down and give yourself a mental exploration.

These are just a few facial structures that help define who we are and how we participate in the world. To learn more about buying my book or setting up a consult, go to my website: www.optionstohealth.com

NH Chronicle Story

I have had the great fortune of having NH Chronicle feature a story about my book, It's In Your Face - The True You Revealed and face reading. The experience has been wonderful, thanks to the fabulous producer Cindy Jones at WMUR. She made the whole day easy, comfortable and fun. The story and the people in it is her focus.

The North Hampton, NH Library allowed us to film a face reading workshop in their classroom. The room was filled with fun, enthusiastic and interesting people who were willing to be filmed as I discussed facial features and their corresponding functions. We laughed a lot, learned a lot and overall enjoyed the experience.

Every Face Tells a Story - What's Your?

When someone asks me what I do and I tell them that I read faces, ninety percent of people cover their face and say, "Oh no, don't look at my face!"

I gently suggest that their life story is written in every facial feature and it is something to be proud of. Our "crow's feet", grooves between the eyebrows and even down-turned corners of the mouth are part of our unique history, challenges and accomplishments! As we age many of our facial features become more exaggerated and we find ourselves in front of the mirror pulling our faces back, lifting our eyebrows and eyelids to see what we would look like if we turned back the clock.

Let's look at the positive story that some of these traits tell. For example, our "crow's feet" or "laugh lines" are also called EMPATHY lines. This is a learned trait. We have learned to understand, acknowledge and support others' suffering, pain and challenges. These lines represent our ability to laugh or cry with others because we understand and have some insight and compassion into what they are experiencing. People with empathy lines are also more inclined to have a sense of humor and a perspective of "it is what it is."

We are not born with vertical lines or furrows between our eyebrows. This is a learned behavior. It comes from repeated frowning or deep focusing. Most of us with these lines have very high standards and want to get things exactly right not only for ourselves, but also for others. That leads to checking and rechecking everything from the lights, to facts. to figures, etc. This trait is a reflection of efficiency and a desire for positive results. So, if you have a few furrows between the eyebrows, strive for a balance between the details and seeing a bigger picture.

Life experiences and your perception of life create the down-turned or up-turned corners of the mouth. If life threw you some curve balls and a lot of pain, it is possible that the corners of your mouth turn downward. It may be harder for you to be optimistic and trusting. Step back, give yourself a pat on the back for making it through the tough times and decide to "feel the fear and do it anyway!" Those of you with up-turned corners of the mouth have been accused of having "rose-colored glasses." You are optimistic and expect that experiences will be positive and everything will work out. Use this trait to your advantage. Consider motivational speaking or mentoring. Use your perspective to inspire others. For both traits, consider Jimmy Dean's quote:

"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust the sails to always reach my destination."

Take out your baby, childhood and adolescent pictures and look at the structures on your face then and now. What traits are still the same? What ones have changed? If they changed, about what age did that happen and what was going on in your life at the time? Keep in mind, our face tells our story. Everyone has a unique perspective that no one else can have. No one has walked in your shoes. Be proud of who you are, how you got here and what you have to offer to the world.

Enhancing Communication with the Understanding of Lip Structures

In most cases, we begin life with full upper and lower lips and a desire and ability to express how we feel about our experiences. It is spontaneous and honest. The child who is allowed to verbalize, express and experience emotion grows up to be an adult with full lips and an ability to be self-expressive. This can take the form of speaking, writing, dancing, performing, drawing, singing and any other creative form of self-expression.

For the person with thin lips, growing up often meant "zipping it", being seen and not heard and feeling like no one was interested in what they felt. It wasn't safe to express feelings. When it came to talking, facts were fine but feelings had to be processed in the mind.

Communication between someone with thin lips and someone with full lips can be challenging. I had the opportunity to witness a conversation between two people who had opposite lip structures. I was presenting a workshop on brain hemisphere integration to parents who home-school their children. Before the talk, the parents held a business meeting.

The president of the group was a woman with extremely thin upper and lower lips. The parent presenting a concern to the group was a woman with extremely full upper and lower lips. They were textbook opposites!

The woman with the full lips talked for over fifteen minutes until interrupted by the president with the thin lips who said, "And the point is?"
The woman with the full lips continued to talk for another ten minutes, until interrupted again by the president who said, "And the point is?"

Needless to say, they were not able to resolve any conflicts that evening because their styles of communication were so different. The president of the group, with thin lips, needed the information to be presented concisely and to-the-point. She wanted to take care of business. The woman with full lips needed to talk in order to discover what she felt the real issue was.

A couple, Cara and Jeff, came to see me because they were having communication problems. The answer was in their lip structures. Jeff and Cara were textbook opposites. Jeff had almost no upper or lower lip and Cara had the fullest lips - Angelina Jolie style.

The interesting piece of the puzzle was that most of their other facial structures, from the lips up, were identical. Pointing that out to them caused them to reflect on the years of enjoyment they had had together. Rather than focus on what was working, they agonized over their communication differences.

As we explored their opposite expressive styles, Cara and Jeff realized that they relied on each others' distinct nature. Cara needed Jeff's ability to see and express the facts based on reflection and consideration and Jeff loved Cara's impulsive emotional reaction to life. They concluded that they didn't want to change the other person. Stress had caused them to deny each others' strengths and differences. By respecting their individual communication style they were able to be a team again.

This week, plan an investigation of your own:

~ Observe the lip structures of people in your life;
~ Look at your own lip structure;
~ Watch the communication styles between people with the same lip structures and those with opposite features.
~ Are you willing to respect different communication styles?
~ Could this information enhance your relationships?

There is no good or bad structure to have. Your life story is written on your face. All of your experiences, perceptions and natural abilities are there for the world to see. What's your story?

Just Who Do You Think You Are?

If you were suddenly stripped of your identity, your roles (daughter, son, mother, father, friend, co-worker, sibling, etc.) and your titles (Mrs., Mr., Ms., Dr., LSW, LMT, RN, etc.), who do you think you would be? How would you define yourself? This is not an easy question for many of you. Often you have molded yourself into the person who everyone wants you to be. So many people, when hitting the 50 year mark, announce to their family and friends,

"The first 50 years went your way, the next 50 years go my way."

And, who exactly is this new person? What words would you use to define and describe who you are now or who you want to be as you move forward?

I tell my clients that their life story and resume is written on their face! The information that your facial structures give and a thesaurus can help you on your way to defining your new and yet, innate description of YOU.

For example, if you have a full lower lip, you are naturally and spontaneously generous with your time, energy and money. You don't even need to think about it if someone asks for your assistance. That would also make you kind, giving, charitable, self-sacrificing, impulsive, big-hearted, helpful, selfless and philanthropic, to name a few facts. None of those words have anything to do with a job description or title. However, they clarify who you are for a job that might require those skills.

If you have a long, narrow face you are by nature cautious, learn in a step-by-step manner and are proud of what you have learned. That would make you careful, thorough, particular, systematic, detailed, orderly, logical and fulfilled by your accomplishments. Someone starting a business could certainly use your skills.

Look in the mirror and check out the space between your eyes. If you could fit more than one and one half of your eye width between your eyes you would be considered a wide-set eye person, someone who sees the big picture, is easygoing and broad-minded. Your focus is on the future and you might be considered an entrepreneur. Words that could also describe you might be: flexible, tolerant, unbiased, adaptable, relaxed, open, patient and lenient.

The turned up tip of the nose has to do with trust of the world and the people in it. Most of us begin life with a turned up nose tip reflecting the innate characteristics of faith, belief, hope, conviction, assurance, optimism, sincerity and authenticity.

 

Want to know more or buy my book, email me at optionstohealth@comcast.net 

The Art and Science of Face Reading

The Art and Science of Face Reading

Face reading and discovering one's own innate nature dates back as far as Cro-Magnon cave drawings. Throughout history, reference to facial structures and their corresponding function appear in literature, the arts and medicine. Aristotle was the first person to write a treatise on face reading called Physiognomonica.

From ancient time to the present, face reading has evolved from an art to a science. In the late 1930's Dr. Edward Vincent Jones combined brain and genetic research with the philosophies of physiognomy, the assessment of a person's character based on their facial appearance, and phrenology, the study of human behavior based on the measurements of the human skull, to create personology, the study of facial structures and their corresponding behaviors.

Dr. Jones' work was carried on with a five year research study done by Robert and Elizabeth Whiteside. Their son, Daniel, along with Gordon Stokes and Candace Calloway, refined the information into what is called Structure/Function, the study of how the physical structure of the face, head and body relates to human behavior and function.

Each physical structure is a clue to our innate behavior: who we are, how we relate to others and how individuals see us. Studying facial structures gives us a new perspective on relationships. Respect and understanding is developed for those with whom we want to effectively communicate.

Each individual structure represents one or more of the following:

• A strength;
• An ability;
• An advantage;
• A talent;
• A gift;
• A lesson to be learned.

For example, take the shape of the face. Face shape has to do with self-confidence - innate or learned.

A person with a long, narrow face is by nature cautious. Their confidence and assurance comes from having learned all of the steps sequentially. They experience self-doubt when approaching unfamiliar people and projects. frustration builds with this individual when they are expected to figure something out immediately and without the necessary information. Once they have learned the steps, they have all the confidence in the world.


I always have someone in my workshops who has a long, narrow face. It helps keep me from straying. On the first day of a four day workshop, I asked the class to turn to page 343 in their books. A look of horror came over Lisa (my long, narrow face student). You could see that she was mortified that I not only skipped page one, but also was starting at the back of the book. She was relieved when I asked them to simply take the page out as it was a worksheet for the day!

The opposite face shape is called broad-shield. The width is through the eyes. This person is innately self-confident. They feel that they can handle anything and tend to face challenges head on. They are very direct and will often be in a leadership position. Need a volunteer for a project or committee? Someone with a broad-shield face is likely to jump right in and fill the need. They don't even need to know what the assignment is. Their mind-set is, "I can do anything I put my mind to." They also have a tendency to skips steps in the process, "1, 2 ...6. Who needs steps 3, 4 and 5?"


There are no good or bad traits to have. Each individual's life story is written on their face. All of our experiences, emotional perceptions, natural abilities, communication styles and needs are there for the world to see.

Writing my First Book

I just received the proof of my first book, It's In Your Face, The True You Revealed, from the printer! I'm almost afraid to look at it for fear that I will want to change things. At this stage, my job is to simply look at their layout and make sure that the words and pictures are straight, that the paragraphs line up and that the book is ready to print.

I never knew that the process of writing and creating a book could be fun. Based on my first experience, I can tell any prospective author several things:

~ Stay true to yourself, your writing style and your message.

~ Find someone who can brainstorm with you to allow the flow of thoughts and words.

~ Have fun with it even on days when the thoughts dry up.

~ If you are self-publishing, get quotes from several printers.

~ Have a marketing plan ready.

~ Let people know ahead of time that you have a book coming out. Get them as excited as you are!